My mom has been having financial problems for awhile and although she has done really well for herself over the years, she's always made poor long term decisions when it comes to money and it has finally caught up with her and she is losing her house as we speak. I've done everything I can including giving her my business at a significant loss to us but she still hasn't changed her ways. I don't know what to do now but I can't have her take us under with her and it's slowly driving me crazy.
I'm hoping when she hits bottom maybe she'll realize her mistakes and learn from them but deep inside I know she won't. She'll just make us feel sorry for her and like all things, it'll be my fault somehow.
When did I become the mom?
Wednesday, March 3, 2010 | at 11:24 PM |
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I'm so sorry:( Is she going to want to move in with you?
Oh that is so SAD....I am sorry. And it doesn't help much if mom is the martyr-and her bad decisions somehow become your fault.
You are very right though. You cannot allow her to financially take you down with her. I know that it is a hard thing because of the culture of caring for elders...
I am just sorry you (and she)are in this position!!
KP, she would rather eat dirt than live with me. I actually offered to live with her, sell my house, and help her with her mortgage last year but she declined. She didn't want to live with my dog and E. I'm not sure which was worse for her. and now she's foreclosing, so I tried and still trying. biting my tongue and trying... every day.
Sweetie none of this is your fault. Everyone has to grow up sometime, even our parents. My fear is that you'll enable her, but it looks as though her pride will not allow that. Which quite honestly may save you both!
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